Parenting and Educator Tips for Working with Children (February 2009)
Teaching Children Behaviors that Build a Can Do Attitude (published by EduGuide & Eastern Carolina Educational Assistance Centre/DeLorge Int'l University Centre for Professional Studies )
How many times have you heard a child that you know say "I can't do that" or "It's too hard." Chances are that children develop that attitude due to negative comments addressed to them either by a teacher, parent, friend, or community acquaintance. Instead of helping to create negative self-esteem feelings within children, our future senators, presidents, corporate leaders and teachers of tomorrow, adults may want to use some of the following ways to provide positive feedback to them:
* Instead of asking "What did you do in school today?" be more specific. Ask: "What good happened in school today? Follow up with questions such as "How did that make you feel?" or "Why did you like it"
* Be a good role model. How you feel about yourself greatly influences how your children feel about themselves. Demonstrate positive and responsible habits for your children to copy. Teaching character happens as much as from your deeds and words.
* Look for the good things your children do and let them know you've noticed and that you are pleased. Be specific.
* Create opportunities for your children to succeed by breaking down big projects into easy increments and then cheer them on at the completion of each step.
* Don't presume your children know how much you love them. Tell them every day. Hug them, talk to them, play with them.
* Watch what you say around your children even if you think they're not paying attention. Children can often hear you even when they are paying attention to something else.
* Let your children know you support and love them even when they don't win; your encouragement is so important. They need to know you're there to cheer them on when they try again.
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